If it comes down to having to deal with poor estate planning on the part of parents who have passed away, there is hope. There are methods that will help family members survive the ordeal and remain a tight-knit clan when the process is over.
If the kids are in charge of dividing up the household goods but cannot agree on who should get an item, then that item is given to charity.
If everybody wants a particular item, sell it and divide the proceeds.
Start with the idea that your folks (probably) would not have wanted you to come to blows over stuff. Focus on honoring your parents’ memories and respecting your family member’s feelings, rather than just getting what you want.
The in-laws and grandchildren need to stay out of it. This process is hard enough without the addition of extra opinions.
In the end, though, don’t forget that estate planning is a time-consuming process and one filled with complex legalities. You owe it to yourself, your spouse, and your loved ones to make sure it is done properly. Contact an experienced and knowledgeable avocat spécialiste succession to help you get started.